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Comment on When your mother dies by Carolyn Thomas

Carolyn Thomas — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 12:02:35 +0000

Thanks Dan – I know that the recent death of your own mother gives you an understanding we can’t have until we experience this loss.

Comment on When your mother dies by denisekathleen

denisekathleen — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 02:08:32 +0000

So sad to hear about your Mom. Thinking about you and wishing you joyful memories and comfort in the embrace of family and friends. Hope to see you when you get back.
Big hugs, d and gj

Comment on When your mother dies by Dan Curtis

Dan Curtis — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 00:25:34 +0000

Dear Carolyn,
Thinking of you right now and sending much love. Take care and when you’re up to it, let’s have a tea.
Love,
Dan

Comment on When your mother dies by Carolyn Thomas

Carolyn Thomas — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 22:44:03 +0000

BJ, my mother lives in my mirror these days, too . . .

Comment on When your mother dies by Robyn Unwin

Robyn Unwin — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 22:38:16 +0000

What a beautiful tribute to the gorgeously complicated mother/daughter relationship. And what honouring words you left in memory of your mom, Carolyn. Sending you lots of love on your journey back to your family.

Comment on When your mother dies by Rod B.

Rod B. — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 20:06:43 +0000

30 years later, I still miss my mom.

Comment on When your mother dies by Paula Roberts

Paula Roberts — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 15:49:42 +0000

Dear Carolyn,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May wonderful memories engulf you all as you celebrate your Mother’s life and love for you and your family. The grieving process takes time and is different for everyone. May you be supported throughout your journey. I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost my mother 7 years ago but everyday I speak of her and to her. Her words of wisdom come to me often and through them she continues to be there for me.
Thank God for Mothers.
Thinking of you,
Paula

Comment on When your mother dies by Chris Corbit

Chris Corbit — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 12:09:18 +0000

So sorry for your loss. The loss of a mother is a great one. You are a tribute to her. I think of my own mother daily and ask for her guidance. Our mothers are always with us.
Take Care,
Chris

Comment on Six rules for navigating your next doctor’s appointment by Carolyn Thomas

Carolyn Thomas — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 06:48:02 +0000

Thanks Dr. Ruth – I only wish more docs were like you!

Comment on Six rules for navigating your next doctor’s appointment by Dr. Ruth Simkin

Dr. Ruth Simkin — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:44:31 +0000

Good one – I think it is up to doctors to help educate patients as well as the need for patients to demand knowledge of their own health care.

Over time, the medical professional had socialized patients in a very negative way to assume the doctor was always busy (true, but not an excuse) and that patients should just trust in the medical profession (really not true).

When I had my medical practice, I never let anyone leave without first asking if they had any questions. Often they were so shocked, they mumbled no and got up to leave so I made them sit down again and think about it. Once my patients were educated to question me and to take responsibility for their own health, everyone did much better. I’m sorry to say I was in the minority. Hopefully, that will not be true much longer.

Comment on When your mother dies by Dr. Ruth Simkin

Dr. Ruth Simkin — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:36:30 +0000

Carolyn – so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I know there are no words that can fill that void in you right now. My mother died in 1986 and I still miss her every day, but over time, the pain, which never completely goes away, is slowly substituted with wonderful memories. It sounds as though you and your mother made some pretty good ones together and I hope they help to bring you peace. Please know you are in my thoughts.

With love,
Ruth

Comment on When your mother dies by martzj

martzj — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:21:30 +0000

Dear Carolyn,

I’m so very sorry for your loss. What a lovely photo and deeply moving memorial here.

Comment on When your mother dies by Deborah Walker

Deborah Walker — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:20:13 +0000

As one who's "been there, done that", I wish you all the best and, especially, comforting arms to enfold you. You never "get over it" but the tears you shed get happier with each passing year.

Comment on When your mother dies by Bj Babcock

Bj Babcock — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 19:59:49 +0000

Dearest Carolyn,

I love the image of your mother’s refrigerator with all of her children’s business cards neatly in a row. What a beautiful woman she must have been ~ just like you! As I age, I find myself looking into the mirror and seeing my mother staring back at me and I feel a sense of comfort. It’s called the circle of life, and while sometimes there is great sadness, there is also great joy in remembering who we are and how we became the people we are today.

Loving thoughts your way as you grieve your beloved mother.
Bj

Comment on When your mother dies by laurahcory

laurahcory — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 19:56:47 +0000

Words are inadequate, but please know that I’m thinking of you. ((hugs))

Comment on When your mother dies by Carolyn Thomas

Carolyn Thomas — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 18:52:26 +0000

Thanks for your kindness, Lynn. You’re so right – my mother WAS so very proud of me and my two brothers and two sisters (although of course that rarely if ever came out in words – you don’t want to give your kids a “swelled head”, after all!) But on her fridge door was very proudly arranged a neat row of the five business cards of her five children. To my mother, who had a 3rd grade education and a childhood of unspeakable misery, just having a business card meant you must be a ‘somebody’ – and here she was with five ‘somebodies’ right in her own family! XOXO

Comment on When your mother dies by quilterlynn

quilterlynn — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 18:40:40 +0000

Carolyn, my stomach tightened into a hard rock when I read your first lines. Oh, yes, what a shock to the body and soul when our mother leaves this world.

Mine was only 55 and a heart attack untreated, undiagnosed, and not suspected was the cause. Not because she didn’t have family history: she had an entire family of male siblings with treated heart disease! Along with a father who died at 39 of the same.

And so, I consider her early death her final gift to me. Awareness of the silent intruder in my own life and in those of my children and their children. A responsibility to be a ‘teller’ to others about their own possible ‘lurking’ inheritance. A small word at the right moment is my legacy to her.

And so you have done the same. The photo of your mother is so lovely. She looks happy, warm, content, and I know she is so very proud of YOU!

Consider yourself hugged and loved this day.

Love,
Lynn, Mayo Clinic Class of ’08

Comment on When your mother dies by New Allie

New Allie — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 18:37:53 +0000

What beautiful words and so true. I’m so sorry Carolyn. Allie

Comment on When your mother dies by familytreefun

familytreefun — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 18:00:59 +0000

Carolyn, I am deeply sorry for your loss, and for the loss to your family. Another journey begins. A warm hug to you ~ Mary

Comment on When your mother dies by Carolyn Thomas

Carolyn Thomas — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 16:22:51 +0000

Thank you all for your kind words.