When the nursing staff forget about you. . .

by Carolyn Thomas   ❤️   Heart Sisters (on Blue Sky)

I was recently introduced to the new-to-me concept called The Window of Tolerance (originally described by Dr. Dan Siegel at UCLA School of Medicine over 25 years ago). This concept basically describes an optimal zone in which we’re best able to function and thrive in everyday life, while dealing pretty effectively with our day-to-day stress.

Most people, Dr. Siegel believes, deal with the demands of everyday life without too much difficulty. But for some of us – especially those facing a serious diagnosis, undue stress, anxiety, pain or trauma, it can often be difficult to stay in the optimal zone of our own Window of Tolerance.
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Is numbness our new normal?

by Carolyn Thomas   ❤️   Heart Sisters (on Blue Sky)

We don’t need bigger lives – we need to feel more present in the ones we already have.”

That’s how Los Angeles physician and author Dr. Alona Pulde opened her column last month in Psychology Today.

I could immediately relate while reading these words:

“We move through our routines. We do what’s expected. We check the boxes. We keep going. But over time, something inside starts to ache. It’s faint at first. Easy to ignore. We call it ‘normal’.
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Remember when food tasted like food?

by Carolyn Thomas   ❤️   Heart Sisters (on Blue Sky)

It all started with a burger a few weeks ago.

My lovely daughter-in-law Paula had picked up a takeout lunch for me from the village. The burger looked perfect:  a freshly baked crusty bun, butter lettuce, juicy ripe tomato slices, yellow mustard and garlic dill pickle relish. I took a nice big bite – and then immediately spat it out onto my plate. Continue reading “Remember when food tasted like food?”

It’s not what you know, or who you know, but who knows you

by Carolyn Thomas   ❤️   Heart Sisters (on Blue Sky)

Almost exactly one year ago, I started feverishly begging everyone I know to please-please-please ask their own family doctors to take on just one more new patient (ME!) despite every family practice clinic in town having a policy of  “Not Accepting Any New Patients” during a doctor shortage.

And my wonderful longtime family doctor had just sent out a “Dear Valued Patient”  letter, announcing her upcoming retirement by Christmas time. Worse – her letter said she’d been unable to arrange a replacement physician for her patients.
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