Chronic complaining: don’t be such a “Greiner Zanner”

by Carolyn Thomas   ♥  @HeartSisters

I called my favorite flower shop last week to complain.  Earlier that morning, I had picked up a bouquet of mini-gerbera flowers for our condo lobby, as I like to do each week.  The gerberas (pictured above) were advertised as seven stems for $5.99. But when I got home and unwrapped the bouquet, I counted only five. My first thought: (a) maybe miscounted by a busy florist?  My second thought: (b) maybe ALL of the displayed bouquets had only five stems, too – despite the “seven stems” advertised in this week’s flyer?  The nice lady on the phone offered me two free gerbera stems if I wanted to come back to the shop to pick them up.

“These aren’t ‘FREE’ “,  I snapped at her. “I’ve already paid you for SEVEN!”  And I did not go back.  Instead, I stewed over that interaction.     .     Continue reading “Chronic complaining: don’t be such a “Greiner Zanner””

Say what? Heart disease and hearing loss

by Carolyn Thomas   ♥  @HeartSisters

During a recent appointment for my first ever hearing test, I was asked (among many other tests) to repeat the words I heard the audiologist saying through my earphones, one after another.  I heard “ache” when the word was actually “ate”,  “lull” instead of “low”, “if” instead of “it”. My answers revealed what audiologists call a “loss of consonant clarity”.  Too bad so many words have consonants in them.

The audiologist also mentioned a link between hearing loss and heart disease. In fact, researchers have confirmed that the risk of age-related hearing loss generally increases as a person’s cardiac risk load increases.  Continue reading “Say what? Heart disease and hearing loss”

When female doctors treat female patients

by Carolyn Thomas   ♥  @HeartSisters

Last week, I was re-reading a 2018 study  that examined female survival rates following a heart attack diagnosis (a topic of great interest to me and other women whose cardiac symptoms have ever been misdiagnosed). Study authors explained what we already knew (“a large body of evidence suggests that women are less likely than men to survive traumatic health episodes like acute myocardial infarction).”  There are lots of studies out there suggesting the same conclusion, but this research tracked both the outcomes of cardiac treatments and also whether the treating physician was male or female. Their conclusions raised an astonished eyebrow or two at the time (notably, in male physicians!)  because researchers found that female heart patients who had been treated by female physicians had better survival outcomes than women treated by male docs. (There were some specific exceptions reported –  if, for example, a male physician has had considerable experience working alongside female colleagues).

I’m guessing that many male physicians don’t like to entertain those kinds of study findings.  . Continue reading “When female doctors treat female patients”

It’s not what you do. It’s who you are.

by Carolyn Thomas   ♥   @HeartSisters

In 2015, New York Times columnist David Brooks wrote about virtues in his column called “The Moral Bucket List”.  But he was actually writing about two different sets of virtues: our résumé virtues and our eulogy virtues.

The résumé virtues are what you do: the workplace skills you’d talk about when job-hunting.  The eulogy virtues are who you are:  what people will say about you at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, generous, funny, honest, trustworthy, etc. Both types of virtues are important and worth pursuing, but as David reminds us, only eulogy virtues have lasting value and legacy.  But depending on who’s doing the asking, it seems those résumé virtues appear to be far more important to certain people.    . Continue reading “It’s not what you do. It’s who you are.”