One of the things I love most about writing this blog is hearing directly from my readers. I already knew that Heart Sisters attracts the smartest, funniest, and wisest readers ever, of course, but this comment from Charlotte in response to one of my articles really struck a chord for me. I’ve written before about this particular issue (i.e. why trotting out all those “inspiring” survivors to talk about their amazing post-recovery achievements can actually leave me feeling not so much inspired, but inadequate). Here’s how she says it so much better (Thank you, Charlotte!): . .
As cancer patient Dawn Lynn Goo once wrote:
“Is one person who manages to live four years into a diagnosis less allowed to be afraid than someone who doesn’t get diagnosed before their cancer has metastasized to their bones, brain, liver, kidneys or another organ?
“It breaks my heart to see one of my friends feeling defeated because someone has told them they should feel or act a certain way. It makes me angry to see someone post that they think my friends shouldn’t post photos of their surgery scars, or show “the ugly side of cancer”. Ugly side? Since when does cancer have a pretty side?
“You must be thinking of those pink ribbons again that have, sadly, done very little to help find a cure. Cancer isn’t pretty. It’s vile, mean, and ugly. It eats away at your body, zaps your strength, and often kills your dignity. It can make you angry, and it steals control over your life.”