Six personality coping patterns that influence how you handle medical crisis

by Carolyn Thomas  @HeartSisters

As regular readers already know, I like to include the work of cardiac psychologist Dr. Wayne Sotile on this site, mostly because what he writes about the psychological challenges of heart disease and recovery rings so true for me since my own heart attack.

His 1992 book Heart Illness and Intimacy: How Caring Relationships Aid Recovery looks at the profound emotional impact that the stresses of heart disease can have on patients, spouses and children.

I was especially intrigued by the chapter called The Personality Factor: Can We Change? which explores how our personalities and coping patterns can often determine how we’ll react to a life-changing cardiac event.

Based on the 1987 pioneering work of Stewart and Joines on Transactional Analysis, Dr. Sotile outlines in this chapter the six basic coping patterns that seem to drive our perceptions, our behavioural choices, and our corresponding emotional reactions to both everyday life and to a chronic and progressive diagnosis like heart disease. He explains:

“These six personality drivers become especially influential in shaping our reactions during stressful times like a serious illness.”

I was surprised to recognize myself in more than one pattern on this list. How many of these six personality coping patterns seem familiar to you? Continue reading “Six personality coping patterns that influence how you handle medical crisis”

A blogging challenge: 15 random facts about me

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by Carolyn Thomas    @HeartSisters

And now for something completely different . . . My blogging sisters Marie Ennis-O’Connor (Ireland) and Nancy Stordahl (Wisconsin, USA) inspired me recently to follow their blogging challenge called “15 Random Facts About Me”.  Because I’d really enjoyed learning random gems about both Marie and Nancy  (after admiring their work for years), I was happy to take up their fun challenge:  Continue reading “A blogging challenge: 15 random facts about me”

“It’s a girl!!”

Welcome to the world, my darling little grandbaby!  Everly Rose, born at 7:07 p.m. on May 7th, 2015 (which would have been my late mother’s birthday!)  Proud parents are Larissa and Randy – Mum and babe doing “FANTASTIC!”, says the new Daddy. 

Let the spoiling begin!

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  Everly Rose napping with her Mum

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Q: Any words of grandmotherly advice for me?

UPDATE: Everly Rose makes her television debut at age 4 weeks (starting about 1:10)

And a few more photo updates as our girl grows . . .

Our house decorated to help spread the news!

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Tiny little feet . . .

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So alert . . .

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On my two-month birthday (notice the “Happy Birthday Peanut” cake)

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I love my Baba (that’s me – her grandmother!)

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Such a happy little girl!

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Having a little chat with my Baba

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First Christmas!

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Screen Shot 2016-04-25 at 6.33.59 AMJust lyin’ around on the living room floor . . . 

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Rosie Munchkin 1 yr birthday pink dressOne year old already!

 

Screen Shot 2016-07-15 at 6.36.40 PM“I have six teeth now!” ~ on the beach at Black Creek with Mummy

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Playing with my onion. . .

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      Trying on Baba’s scarf

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Feeding the ducks at Beacon Hill Park

 

Daddy throws me up high at the annual Oak Bay Tea Party (age 2!)

                        Out for a walk around Oak Bay Village with my bunny Lou Lou

 

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Baba getting me ready for our walk to daycare

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Riding the carousel at Hillside Mall

 

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I’m four years old today! (with Mummy’s homemade Piñata Cake!)

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Age 7:  Making cabbage rolls with my Baba for Ukrainian Christmas Eve dinner!

 

Age 8:  Guess who Baba and I saw while we were walking home from school!?!

 

Age 9: I baked this cherry cake from scratch for afternoon tea with Mum & Baba

 

My guest column in Stanford School of Medicine’s ‘Scope’

by Carolyn Thomas    @HeartSisters

John Novack is the Director of Communications at Inspire – the organization that hosts WomenHeart’s online support community of almost 18,000 members living with heart disease. Three years ago, John approached Michelle Brandt. She’s the Director of Digital and Broadcast Media at Stanford University School of Medicine, and also the editor of the school’s medical blog called Scope. John’s suggestion to Michelle: let him help her work what he called “the voices of actual, unvarnished patients” into her publication – normally devoted to coverage of scientific and medical developments around the world. Michelle said yes.

And that’s how Scope’s monthly patient-focused series of unique personal stories was launched. Since I qualified as a contributor (an actual, unvarnished patient myself), John invited me to submit something for consideration – “I’d love a draft column by the end of March!” is how he put it. Continue reading “My guest column in Stanford School of Medicine’s ‘Scope’”